When a relationship dies do we ever really give up the ghost or are we forever haunted by the spirits of relationships past?

Most of my friends in New York are single women or gay men.

The women's choice of footwear doesn't speak for their most important inner life, but rather it tells a story - this is an opportunity to express themselves. I think the thing that's most compelling about other people is when you don't look like you're trying to dress like your friend, colleague, neighbor, or anything else. That's a very arresting and exciting and compelling quality to possess - not everybody has the courage to walk out the door feeling like themselves, but once they do, it's thrilling to witness.

To be in a couple, do you have to put your single self on a shelf?

I don't judge others. I say if you feel good with what you're doing, let your freak flag fly.

For the last ten years or more, I've really been making shopping decisions based on, "Is that what I want to wear forever?" I tend to not have these quick one - night stands or affairs with fashion, because it never suits me anyway. I tend to shop, specifically with heels or shoes, for things that I think, "Yeah, this is a long - term relationship.".

Do we need distance to get close?