Often things are as bad as they seem.

All of the truly important battles are waged within the self. (7)

He may only get to keep that which he is willing to let go of.

Transformations require that we let go of familiar ways of doing things, without yet knowing what we will do next.

If outrageous imagination is the wine of madness, then come fill my cup.

I remember a group therapy session when one of the patients was reluctantly turning his corner. He would accept it, he said, but he wouldn't like the idea of having to solve problems every day for the rest of his life. My co-therapist told him that it was not required that he like it. She shared her own displeasure, saying: 'I remember that when I first discovered what life was like, I was furious. I guess I'm still kind of mad sometimes.' (135)

Sometimes it seems to me that in this absurdly random life there is some inherent justice in the outcome of personal relationships. In the long run, we get no more than we have been willing to give.