There appear to be many people who chose to go crazy (or become alcoholics, addicts, criminals, suicides) rather than have to bear the pain and ambiguity of a life situation that they have decided that they cannot stand. (98)

You can't make anyone love you. You just have to reveal who you are and take your chances. (105)

If I reveal myself without worrying about how others will respond, then some will care, though others may not. But who can love me, if no one knows me? I must risk it, or live alone.

He may only get to keep that which he is willing to let go of.

One can choose life, or choose death. Having chosen life, I must live it as it is.

And so, it is not astonishing that, though the patient enters therapy insisting that he wants to change, more often than not, what he really wants is to remain the same and to get the therapist to make him feel better. (4)

He prefers the security of known misery to the misery of unfamiliar insecurity.