Expressing yourself when he takes for granted doesn't work.
Anything a person chases in life runs away.
A little bit of irreverence is necessary to have any self-esteem at all. Not irreverence for people, but rather, for what other people think.
When a man takes a woman for granted, he still looks for reassurance that she is still right there.
He must feel that you choose to be with him, not that you need to be with him.
A beautiful woman can make herself look ugly in the eyes of a man if she is very insecure.