When looking for a life partner, my advice to women is date all of them: the bad boys, the cool boys, the commitment-phobic boys, the crazy boys. But do not marry them. The things that make the bad boys sexy do not make them good husbands. When it comes time to settle down, find someone who wants an equal partner. Someone who thinks women should be smart, opinionated and ambitious. Someone who values fairness and expects or, even better, wants to do his share in the home. These men exist and, trust me, over time, nothing is sexier.

I have never met a woman, or man, who stated emphatically, "Yes, I have it all.'" Because no matter what any of us has—and how grateful we are for what we have—no one has it all.

We have to ask ourselves if we have become so focused on supporting personal choices that we're failing to encourage women to aspire to leadership.

So please ask yourself: What would I do if I weren't afraid? And then go do it.

Without fear, women can pursue professional success and personal fulfillment-and freely choose one, or the other, or both.

The best decision I ever made was to marry Dave.

Next time you're about to call your daughter bossy, take a deep breath and say, 'My daughter has executive leadership skills.'