To give your sheep or cow a large, spacious meadow is the way to control him.
To express yourself as you are, without any intentional, fancy way of adjusting yourself, is the most important thing.
The way that helps will not be the same; it changes according to the situation.
Zen is everywhere.... But for you, Zen is right here.
If you think your body and mind are two, that is wrong; if you think that they are one, that is also wrong. Our body and mind are both two and one.
You will always exist in the universe in one form or another.