There is no 'my self' and 'his self'. There is the Self, the only Self of all. Misled by the diversity of names and shapes, minds and bodies, you imagine multiple selves.
Sri Nisargadatta MaharajAwareness is ever there. It need not be realized. Open the shutter of the mind, and it will be flooded with light.
Sri Nisargadatta MaharajIt is always the false that makes you suffer, the false desires and fears, the false values and ideas, the false relationships between people. Abandon the false and you are free of pain; truth makes happy, truth liberates.
Sri Nisargadatta MaharajThere is no second, or higher self to search for. You are the highest self, only give up the false ideas you have about your self.
Sri Nisargadatta Maharaj