Most people think of leadership as a position and therefore don't see themselves as leaders.

When parents see their children's problems as opportunities to build the relationship instead of as negative, burdensome irritations, it totally changes the nature of parent-child interaction. Parents become more willing, even excited, about deeply understanding and helping their children. . . . This paradigm is powerful in business as well.

The only person over whom you have direct and immediate control is yourself. The most important assets to develop, preserve and enhance, therefore, are your own capabilities. And no one can do it for you. You must cultivate the habit of leadership effectiveness for yourself - and doing so will be the single best investment you will ever make.

But until a person can say deeply and honestly, "I am what I am today because of the choices I made yesterday," that person cannot say, "I choose otherwise.

Find your voice, and inspire others to find theirs. Don't ignore that longing to make a difference.

Interdependent people combine their own efforts with the efforts of others to achieve their greatest success.

Remember that our reactions are a product of our perceptions, and our perceptions are a result of what is at the center of our life.