Calling a trans person by their former name is referred to as "deadnaming" and is considered highly offensive to most trans people I know.

To parents who find a child's disclosure about sexual or gender identity challenging, I always urge what I'd call "moderated" honesty. If you can't say "I love you," then say something like, "I'm going to need some time to digest this news." Buy time this way. And then think.

When someone transitions you should refer to them by their new name both in the present and with references back in time.

The right to be married was hard earned by the marriage equality movement and one of its "perks" is the right to use the terms commonly associated with marriage; husband and wife are the two most common.

From my vantage point, when I'm criticized in a way that I can hear what's being said - i.e., the issues - I'm more likely to listen and respond. A lot of the personal email I receive consists of name calling; I'll write back and say: Talk to me like I'm a person and you're a person and tell me where you disagree with me. I can't tell you how that turns people upside down. More often than not they write back with an apology and a reasoned argument.

Calling a trans person by their former name is referred to as "deadnaming" and is considered highly offensive to most trans people I know.

Rely on facts, figures, principles of equality and fairness.