Parents don't make mistakes because they don't care, but because they care so deeply.

Attachment to a baby is a long-term process, not a single, magical moment. The opportunity for bonding at birth may be compared to falling in love - staying in love takes longer and demands more work.

Families need families. Parents need to be parented. Grandparents, aunts, and uncles are back in fashion because they are necessary. Stresses on many families are out of proportion to anything two parents can handle.

Grandparents who want to be truly helpful will do well to keep their mouths shut and their opinions to themselves until these are requested.

A newborn already has nine months of experience when she is born.

Reading to children at night, responding to their smiles with a smile, returning their vocalizations with one of your own, touching them, holding them - all of these further a child's brain development and future potential, even in the earliest months.

A grandchild is a miracle, but a renewed relationship with your own children is even a greater one.