If I'm judging the attachment, myself, or another person, then I create separation.

In a basic way, acceptance is seeing clearly what's happening and holding it with kindness. This is a radical antidote to the suffering of judging mind.

My prayer became 'May I find peace... May I love this life no matter what.' I was seeking an inner refuge, an experience of presence and wholeness that could carry me through whatever losses might come.

It is through realizing loving presence as our very essence, through being that presence, that we discover true freedom.

When we relax about imperfection, we no longer lose our life moments in the pursuit of being different and in the fear of what is wrong.

When I'm attached, I find that I don't see the other person as clearly because I'm more caught up in what I'm wanting.

Self-judgment continues to arise - it's a strong habit - but the fact that I made a conscious commitment to recognize it has helped me stop feeding the story of being unworthy.