Offer some gesture of kindness to yourself. Sometimes it's just a message, to say: "It's okay. You're going to be okay. We've been through this before." The intention is reassurance, that you are not alone and you can do this. It is the most powerful way to come out of what I call the "trance of unworthiness."

When we experience stress, the nervous system tries to control things. Part of waking up is discovering what we are beyond that controlling organism.

We can find true refuge within our own hearts and minds-right here, right now, in the midst of our moment-to-momen t lives.

If you let someone know you appreciate him or her, especially when you're going to disagree, it gets that person's defenses down.

The process of radical acceptance is to accept that a story has appeared in the mind, and then deepen the attention to see clearly what's happening in the body, to regard those feelings and sensations with kindness and acceptance, and to notice how they come and go.

Where desire ends up causing suffering is when it fixates.

Even a few moments of offering lovingkindness can reconnect you with the purity of your loving heart.