The main thing going on around intimacy is that we've developed a lot of strategies so we'll be a desirable package.
Tara BrachIt is natural that our minds replay old stories, because that is our own mechanism for trying to work out unresolved problems. Yet rerunning those stories will be a fruitless looping until we learn how to move from the story into our body. This is why therapy alone often doesn't bring full healing and awakening.
Tara Brach