There is no wisdom without mastery over the mystery of our internal world, the world that opens the door to understanding others.

Part of what makes a situation traumatic is not talking about it. Talking reduces trauma symptoms. When we don't talk about trauma, we remain emotionally illiterate. Our most powerful feelings go unnamed and unspoken.

Only when we stop holding others accountable for all of our troubles can we truly be free.

All the wisdom in the world cannot put in one's heart the love one yearned for as a small child.

Neural repatterning comes as we enter into and sustain new types of relationships that allow us to reregulate our sense impressions slowly and over time.

There is no wisdom without mastery over the mystery of our internal world, the world that opens the door to understanding others.

We forgive, if we are wise, not for the other person, but for ourselves. We forgive, not to erase a wrong, but to relieve the residue of the wrong that is alive within us. We forgive because it is less painful than holding on to resentment. We forgive because without it we condemn ourselves to repeating endlessly the very trauma or situation that hurt us so. We forgive because ultimately it is the smartest action to take on our own behalf. We forgive because it restores to us a sense of inner balance.