One of the premises of parenting might be that the job of parents is to teach their kids to get along without them.

Parents typically don't talk to each other about their goals and attitudes to parenting but this type of conversation could be very useful for helping parents become clearer about the things that are important to them.

Accessing a "professional listener" such as a psychologist or counselor can be useful if the loved one wants to use this form of support.

Spending time with the child or adolescent in mutually enjoyable activities on a regular basis will help to build warmth and trust.

Sometimes offering support and making yourself available when the child or adolescent is ready to talk can be the most helpful you can be.

Parents should be able to develop goals about the type of parents they want to be.

When a child or adolescent is troubled, the most important thing for the parent to focus on may very well be their relationship with their child or adolescent. Parents need to do whatever they can to make sure the relationship is strong.