Love is primarily giving. It’s an action that leads to a feeling, not a feeling first.
Timothy KellerThe gospel shows us that our spiritual problem lies not only in failing to obey God, but also in relying on our obedience to make us fully acceptable to God, ourselves and others. Every kind of character flaw comes from this natural impulse to be our own saviour through our own performance and achievement. On the one hand, proud and disdainful personalities come from basing your identity on your performance and thinking you are succeeding. But on the other hand, discouraged and self loathing personalities also come from basing your identity on your performance and thinking you are failing.
Timothy KellerThe gospel shows a God far more holy than the legalist can bear, yet far more merciful than a humanist can conceive
Timothy Keller