When you forgive, that means you absorb the loss and the debt. You bear it yourself. All forgiveness, then, is costly.

One of the signs that you may not grasp the unique, radical nature of the gospel is that you are certain that you do.

...Singles, too, must see the penultimate status of marriage. If single Christians don't develop a deeply fulfilling love relationship with Jesus, they will put too much pressure on their DREAM of marriage, and that will create pathology in their lives as well.

If we can't "love the sinner; hate the sin" then how can we relate to ourselves? Love who we are in Christ but still hate the sin remaining.

The Gospel is that Jesus Christ came to earth, lived the life we should have lived and died the death we should have died.

Holding a grudge against someone means you think you know what they deserve and you take it upon yourself to give it to them.

I've heard plenty of Christians try to answer the why question by going back to the what. "You have to believe because Jesus is the Son of God." But that's answering the why with more what. Increasingly we live in a time in which you can't avoid the why question. Just giving the what (for example, a vivid gospel presentation) worked in the days when the cultural institutions created an environment in which Christianity just felt true or at least honorable. But in a post-Christendom society, in the marketplace of ideas, you have to explain why this is true, or people will just dismiss it.