I tend to listen to my friends and family empathetically, and I try to help work through their problems from the inside. I try to adopt their thinking.
Tom BarbashI think writers tend to hear a different message from the ones our friends and acquaintances intend. We see what's revealed, which makes us dangerous.
Tom BarbashI think the second, or outsider's, perspective can come as you layer a story. It's as though you've grabbed a secondary character and asked them, "What do you make of this guy?" and the hope is that the answer surprises you as the writer.
Tom BarbashMy characters tend, if wounded, to be emotionally resourceful. Often they're in that way station between when loss happens and when it can be fully comprehended. In the meantime they're fighting to get something back, and occasionally they prevail in surprising ways.
Tom BarbashI went back into the older stories and reworked them, because I became a better writer over the years and could spot flaws. I loved having another chance to make them stronger, and to bring them closer to me, made them less like a greatest hits compilation, and more like something written in the same extended burst.
Tom Barbash