You don't necessarily go in to talk to the person to try to find some secret key to the lock.
Tom HanksMy son is a gentleman and a professional who is pursuing something difficult. Yet the only thing he has ever asked me for is advice - never favors. He has just said, "What do you think I should do, Dad?" It's extraordinary to me that my son would listen to and have faith in whatever wisdom I can offer.
Tom Hanks