Connection and love: We all want it. Most people settle for connection because love's too scary.

Take control of your consistent emotions and begin to consciously and deliberately reshape your daily experience of life.

Regarding the psychological, your goal must not be "I need to lose X pounds" but "I'm going to regain my identity," whether as an athlete, a conservative, a sexual being, a together person, whatever.

The greatest leverage you can create for yourself is the pain that comes from inside, not outside. Knowing that you have failed to live up to your own standards for your life is the ultimate pain.

You've got to bring the emotion, and you have to understand that you can't touch other people if you're not touched. You can't move other people if you're not moved. So if you're just giving some frickin talk you've memorized over and over again, you're going to have a flat affect. If you've just got a bunch of visuals on the screen that are leading your talk, hang up your shoes and get the hell out of there.

Expect change. Analyze the landscape. Take the opportunities. Stop being the chess piece; become the player. It's your move.

What people CAN do is very different from what they WILL do.