The Bible makes it clear that self-righteousness is the premier enemy of the Gospel.

You are not obligated to pull yourself up by your bootstraps and find a way to conquer the odds, to be stronger or transform yourself into some better version of yourself. The pain you are feeling (whatever the degree) may be a reminder that things are not as they should be.

The law demands that we do it all; the gospel declares that Jesus paid it all.

The gospel announces that God doesn't relate to us based on our feats for Jesus, but Jesus' feats for us.

God is not interested in what you think you should be or feel. He is not interested in the narrative you have construct for yourself, or that others have construct for you. He may even use suffering to deconstruct that narrative.

Grace always runs downhill, meeting us at the bottom, not the top.

The lifeblood of Christianity is not our persistence in moving toward God but God's persistence in moving toward us.