Forgiveness doesn't mean we have to pretend someone didn't hurt us.

Truth matters. Everything we can do to find, feed, and strengthen it is worth the effort.

Forgiveness is possible even when there is no restitution, no remorse on the part of the perpetrator.

Positive reinforcement changes behavior for the better, while criticism stabilizes negative behaviors and blocks change.

Sometimes forgiveness is instant, but sometimes it takes time.

Out-of-whack emotions are always a good beginning point for identifying beliefs that aren't really true, an easy red flag for our inquiry. Exaggerated emotions of anxiety or discouragement invite us to trace them back to the thoughts that are creating them.

We will know our forgiveness is complete when we have a genuine desire for the welfare of the people who have wronged us.