One wants never to give up this crystalline perspective. One wants to keep counterpositioning home with what one knows of alternative realities, as they exist in Tunis or Hyderabad. One wants never to forget that nothing here is normal, that the streets are different in Wisebaden, and Louyang, that this is just one of many possible worlds.
Alain de BottonWhat I want to argue for is not that we should give up on our ideas of success, but that we should make sure that they are our own. We should focus in on our ideas and make sure that we own them, that we're truly the authors of our own ambitions. Because it's bad enough not getting what you want, but it's even worse to have an idea of what it is you want and find out at the end of the journey that it isn't, in fact, what you wanted all along.
Alain de BottonYou have to be quite heavily invested in someone to do them the honour of telling them you're annoyed with them.
Alain de BottonI assemble my ideas in pieces on a computer file, then gradually find a place for them on a piece of scaffolding I erect.
Alain de BottonWe read the weird tales in newspapers to crowd out the even weirder stuff inside us.
Alain de BottonWork finally begins when the fear of doing nothing exceeds the fear of doing it badly.
Alain de BottonWe depend on our surroundings obliquely to embody the moods and ideas we respect and then to remind us of them. We look to our buildings to hold us, like a kind of psychological mould, to a helpful vision of ourselves. We arrange around us material forms which communicate to us what we need โ but are at constant risk of forgetting what we need โ within. We turn to wallpaper, benches, paintings and streets to staunch the disappearance of our true selves.
Alain de Botton