You mainly feel the way you think.

In fact most of what we call anxiety is overconcern about what someone thinks of you.

Failure doesn't have anything to do with your intrinsic value as a person.

Many psychoanalysts refused to let me speak at their meetings. They were exceptionally vigorous because I had previously been an analyst and they were very angry at my flying the coop.

There are three musts that hold us back: "I must do well. You must treat me well. And the world must be easy." And I sometimes think that as long as we keep the second must, which is socially learned, then some screwballs 100 years from now will manufacture atomic bombs in their bathtub and maybe annihilate the whole human race because they demand that the rest of the world must agree with their dogmas. When we don't agree, they may zap us.

Acceptance is not love. You love a person because he or she has lovable traits, but you accept everybody just because they're alive and human.

Stop shoulding on yourself