The trouble with most therapy is that it helps you feel better. But you don't get better. You have to back it up with action, action, action.
Albert EllisWhining about your own, others', or the world's failings is a main element in what we usually call neurosis.
Albert EllisIf people stopped looking on their emotions as ethereal, almost inhuman processes, and realistically viewed them as being largely composed of perceptions, thoughts, evaluations, and internalized sentences, they would find it quite possible to work calmly and concertedly at changing them.
Albert EllisEating is always a decision, nobody forces your hand to pick up food and put it into your mouth.
Albert EllisThe Freudian tradition will never completely die because it has a few good points. For example, people have motives and thoughts of which they are unaware. Most of cognitive therapy has now adopted a similar idea. On the other hand, the relationship part of psychoanalysis - where you must have a deep, emotional relationship with the client - will, I think, get kicked in the teeth one of these days.
Albert Ellis