Those who know they're valued irrespective of their accomplishments often end up accomplishing quite a lot. It's the experience of being accepted without conditions that helps people develop a healthy confidence in themselves, a belief that it's safe to take risks and try new things.
Alfie KohnYou have to give them unconditional love. They need to know that even if they screw up, you love them. You don't want them to grow up and resent you or, even worse, parent the way you parented them.
Alfie KohnChildren, after all, are not just adults-in-the-making. They are people whose current needs and rights and experiences must be taken seriously.
Alfie KohnThe late W. Edwards Deming, guru of Quality management, once declared, 'The most important things we need to manage can't be measured.' If thatโs true of what we need to manage, it should be even more obvious that itโs true of what we need to teach.
Alfie Kohn