Those who know they're valued irrespective of their accomplishments often end up accomplishing quite a lot. It's the experience of being accepted without conditions that helps people develop a healthy confidence in themselves, a belief that it's safe to take risks and try new things.
Alfie KohnTo be well-educated is to have the desire as well as the means to make sure that learning never ends.
Alfie KohnA preoccupation with achievement is not only different from, but often detrimental to, a focus on learning. Thoughts and emotions while performing an action are more important in determining subsequent engagement than the actual outcome of that action.
Alfie KohnPunishments and rewards are two sides of the same coin and that coin doesn't buy you much.
Alfie Kohn