It's not just that humiliating people, of any age, is a nasty and disrespectful way of treating them. It's that humiliation, like other forms of punishment, is counterproducti ve. 'Doing to' strategies - as opposed to those that might be described as 'working with' - can never achieve any result beyond temporary compliance, and it does so at a disturbing cost.

Contrary to what you think, your company will be a lot more productive if you refuse to tolerate competition among your employees.

Punishment and reward proceed from basically the same psychological model, one that conceives of motivation as nothing more than the manipulation of behavior.

When was the last time you spent the entire day with only 42 year olds?

Grades dilute the pleasure that a student experiences on successfully completing a task.

You have to give them unconditional love. They need to know that even if they screw up, you love them. You don't want them to grow up and resent you or, even worse, parent the way you parented them.

How can we do our best when we are spending our energies trying to make others lose - and fearing that they will make us lose?