A preoccupation with achievement is not only different from, but often detrimental to, a focus on learning. Thoughts and emotions while performing an action are more important in determining subsequent engagement than the actual outcome of that action.
Alfie KohnTo be well-educated is to have the desire as well as the means to make sure that learning never ends.
Alfie KohnStudents should not only be trained to live in a democracy when they grow up; they should have the chance to live in one today.
Alfie KohnChildren learn how to make good decisions by making decisions, not by following directions.
Alfie KohnIn short, with each of the thousand-and-one problems that present themselves in family life, our choice is between controlling and teaching, between creating an atmosphere of distrust and one of trust, between setting an example of power and helping children to learn responsibility, between quick-fix parenting and the kind that's focused on long-term goals.
Alfie Kohn