If a child is off-task...mayb e the problem is not the child...maybe it's the task.

We learn most readily, most naturally, most effectively, when we start with the big picture - precisely when the basics don't come first.

Children, after all, are not just adults-in-the-making. They are people whose current needs and rights and experiences must be taken seriously.

You have to give them unconditional love. They need to know that even if they screw up, you love them. You don't want them to grow up and resent you or, even worse, parent the way you parented them.

Contrary to what you think, your company will be a lot more productive if you refuse to tolerate competition among your employees.

In short, with each of the thousand-and-one problems that present themselves in family life, our choice is between controlling and teaching, between creating an atmosphere of distrust and one of trust, between setting an example of power and helping children to learn responsibility, between quick-fix parenting and the kind that's focused on long-term goals.

A preoccupation with achievement is not only different from, but often detrimental to, a focus on learning. Thoughts and emotions while performing an action are more important in determining subsequent engagement than the actual outcome of that action.