Trying to do well and trying to beat others are two different things. Excellence and victory are conceptually distinct . . . and are experienced differently.

Sometimes we have to put our foot down, ... but before we deliberately make children unhappy in order to get them to get into the car, or to do their homework or whatever, we need to weigh whether what we're doing to make it happen is worth the possible strain on our relationship with them.

In outstanding classrooms, teachers do more listening than talking, and students do more talking than listening. Terrific teachers often have teeth marks on their tongues.

When we do things that are controlling, whether intentional or not, we are not going to get those long-term outcomes.

Unconditional parenting: Moving from Rewards and Punishments to Love and Reason.

We can't value only what is easy to measure; measurable outcomes may be the least important results of learning.

The value of a book about dealing with children is inversely proportional to the number of times it contains the word behavior.