Sometimes we have to put our foot down, ... but before we deliberately make children unhappy in order to get them to get into the car, or to do their homework or whatever, we need to weigh whether what we're doing to make it happen is worth the possible strain on our relationship with them.

Each time I visit such a classroom, where the teacher is more interested in creating a democratic community than in maintaining her position of authority, I’m convinced all over again that moving away from consequences and rewards isn’t just realistic - it’s the best way to help kids grow into good learners and good people.

Grades are a subjective rating masquerading as an objective evaluation.

If faculty would relax their emphasis on grades, this might serve not to lower standards but to encourage an orientation toward learning.

If unconditional love and genuine enthusiasm are present, praise isn't necessary. If they're absent, praise won't help.

Learning is something students do, NOT something done to students.

Children learn how to make good decisions by making decisions, not by following directions.