Sometimes we have to put our foot down, ... but before we deliberately make children unhappy in order to get them to get into the car, or to do their homework or whatever, we need to weigh whether what we're doing to make it happen is worth the possible strain on our relationship with them.
Alfie KohnIf unconditional love and genuine enthusiasm are present, praise isn't necessary. If they're absent, praise won't help.
Alfie KohnSometimes we have to put our foot down, ... but before we deliberately make children unhappy in order to get them to get into the car, or to do their homework or whatever, we need to weigh whether what we're doing to make it happen is worth the possible strain on our relationship with them.
Alfie KohnThe late W. Edwards Deming, guru of Quality management, once declared, 'The most important things we need to manage can't be measured.' If thatโs true of what we need to manage, it should be even more obvious that itโs true of what we need to teach.
Alfie Kohn