If faculty would relax their emphasis on grades, this might serve not to lower standards but to encourage an orientation toward learning.
Alfie KohnPunishments and rewards are two sides of the same coin and that coin doesn't buy you much.
Alfie KohnHow can we do our best when we are spending our energies trying to make others lose - and fearing that they will make us lose?
Alfie KohnIn short, with each of the thousand-and-one problems that present themselves in family life, our choice is between controlling and teaching, between creating an atmosphere of distrust and one of trust, between setting an example of power and helping children to learn responsibility, between quick-fix parenting and the kind that's focused on long-term goals.
Alfie Kohn