You only live once. Trying to do the right thing for other people often doesnt work out, and you have to follow your own path in order to make things work out best for everyone.

And I loved seeing that because they're great interesting cities in of themselves so I'm looking forward to actually being able to use it as itself instead of being a bad New York.

I think it's just different to get married for a woman than it is for a man. The amount of work to overcome certain gender roles in the partnership - just the expectation of housework, kid-work, whatever it is.

I don't have any trouble believing that you would avoid something seemingly perfect because you're in something you really want to prove to yourself you can do right.

Have a kid. You obviously shouldn't have a baby just to get politically active, but I'm eight and a half months pregnant, and I swear, thinking about an actual very real future for a tiny person is a game changer.

There's a lot more historical baggage to deal with as a wife than as a partner.

But it's been funny to try and carry the through line, but I think the main thing is the relationship that the band has because we have spent now all this time together that I think that's sort of what we returning to. And whenever we get to play together, it still sort of returns to that little shitty rehearsal space. So that's good.