If you want to know someone, just look at who they choose to spend their time with.

You allow people to treat you the way they do. Your energy, confidence and attitude is the currency that others will transact with.

Hold yourself on your own. A man's job in a romantic dynamic is not to be your butler, bank account or your father.

You cannot teach ambition.

Be kind and gentle on yourself. In this fast-paced world, we are so hard on ourselves and impatient with healing. Unfortunately, there is nothing you can do to speed up the process. Sure, you can numb the pain or distract yourself, but if you don't allow yourself to process the emotion in a healthy way, the pain and darkness just gets buried deep inside you, and eventually comes up in your future relationships. Stop blaming yourself, and instead try to look for the lesson and the growth opportunity.

Get in the habit of writing down three things you're grateful for every day. Studies show that in a two-minute span of time, done over 21 days in a row, you can actually rewire your brain. Your brain starts to retain a pattern of scanning the world for the positive versus the negative. Seeing things in a frame of positivity and gratitude is a muscle. You can strengthen this muscle through practice.

If you want to know someone, just look at who they choose to spend their time with.