Both of my girls have very high self-esteem because they were both able to master certain things; I should think that's good for their confidence.

To be honest, I know that a lot of Asian parents are secretly shocked and horrified by many aspects of Western parenting.

I worry that by losing my temper so much and being so harsh and yelling so much that, by example, I will have taught my daughters to be that way, and I'm now constantly telling them not to do that.

I do think that maybe, even subconsciously, a lot of parents in the West are wondering, have we gone too far in the direction of coddling and protecting - you know, you see kids, sometimes that seem very rude and disrespectful. And the more important thing is they don't seem that happy.

Never complain or make excuses. If something seems unfair, just prove yourself by working twice as hard and being twice as good.

Kids raised to be pampered and spoiled don't really end up being good leaders. Leaders need to be independent minded and confident.

What Chinese parents understand is that nothing is fun until you're good at it. pg 29