I'm suggesting that, ironically, the secret to becoming a world 'hyperpower' is tolerance. If you look at history, you see great powers being very tolerant in their rise to global dominance.

My youngest sister, Cindy, has Down syndrome, and I remember my mother spending hours and hours with her, teaching her to tie her shoelaces on her own, drilling multiplication tables with Cindy, practicing piano every day with her. No one expected Cindy to get a Ph.D.! But my mom wanted her to be the best she could be, within her limits.

Unlike Western parents, reminding my child of Lord Voldemort didn't bother me.

What Chinese parents understand is that nothing is fun until you're good at it. pg 29

Be modest, be humble, be simple.Make sure you come in first so that you have something to be humble about.

Westerners often laud their children as 'talented' or 'gifted', while Asian parents highlight the importance of hard work. And in fact, research performed by Stanford psychologist Carol Dweck has found that the way parents offer approval affects the way children perform, even the way they feel about themselves.

I sort of feel like people are not that honest about their own parenting. Take any teenage household; tell me there is not yelling and conflict.