My mother didn't teach me lessons about being Chinese as strongly as she did the notion of who I was as a female.

Fate is shaped half by expectation, half by inattention.

Fate changes when you change your clothes.

I did not lose myself all at once.

And when I say that is certainly true, that our marriage is over. I know what else she will say: "Then you must save it." And even though I know it's hopeless- there's absolutely nothing left to save-I'm afraid if I tell her that, she'll still persuade me to try.

If she doesn't speak, she is making a choice. If she doesn't try, she can lose her chance forever. -An-mei

You have to be your own person. You can't let people's opinions determine how you think about yourself. There's a difference between identity and self-identity.