If you can't change your fate, change your attitude.

I did not lose myself all at once. I rubbed out my face over the years washing away my pain, the same way carvings on stone are worn down by water.

I wanted my children to have the best combination: American circumstances and Chinese character. How could I know these things do not mix?

I won't be what I'm not. -Jing-mei

Hope is the adrenalin of the soul.

But she never looked back with regret. There were so many ways for things to get better. -Jing-mei

It was a distorted form of inverse logic: If hopes never come true, then hope for what you don't want.