If you can't change your fate, change your attitude.

That was how dishonesty and betrayal started, not in big lies but in small secrets.

Sometimes you change to survive, and some things you don't give up, or you're too prideful, and then you think well, what's pride? Is it a good thing? Maybe it's a bad thing. That's what I look at in my life. It's always a question in my life I look at, and I never find the answer, because if I did, probably I wouldn't have books to write.

I was raised the Chinese way: I was taught to desire nothing, to swallow other people's misery, to eat my own bitterness. And even though I taught my daughter the opposite, still she came out the same way! Maybe it is because she was born to me and she was born a girl. And I was born to my mother and I was born a girl. All of us are like stairs, one step after another, going up and down, but all going the same way.

When you lose your face..., it is like dropping your necklace down a well. The only way you can get it back is to fall in after it.

I hated the tests the raised hopes and failed expectations.

Your only shame is to have shame.