Find the beliefs that are strangling your feelings, challenge them for your sake as well as theirs, and see how it feels to love someone without a thought about the future, simply for who they are today.

Stress is not the spice of life any more than arsenic is. And without it, you won't feel bored.

People around the world now complain about stressors everyday, and the word shows up throughout professional and lay literature. But in reality there is no such thing as a stressor. Why not? Because nothing has the inherent power to provoke stress.

Here is the tragedy of theology in its distilled essence: The employment of high-powered human intellect, of genius, of profoundly rigorous logical deduction—studying nothing. In the Middle Ages, the great minds capable of transforming the world did not study the world; and so, for most of a millennium, as human beings screamed in agony—decaying from starvation, eaten by leprosy and plague, dying in droves in their twenties—the men of the mind, who could have provided their earthly salvation, abandoned them for otherworldly fantasies.

We all enjoy pushing ourselves to accomplish our objectives. But we don't need stress to get there.

Remember that stress doesn't come from what's going on in your life. It comes from your thoughts about what's going on in your life.

Look closer at the stress in your own life and you can identify that negative emotions are always built on counterfactual statements.