Whatever everyone else has asked you to do or never let you do, and let's do that.
I often look ridiculous in Japan. There's really no way to eat in Japan, particularly kaiseki in a traditional ryokan, without offending the Japanese horribly. Every gesture, every movement is just so atrociously wrong, and the more I try, the more hilarious it is.
I'm in no position to try to tell people how to live their family life.
Everything important I learned, I learned as a dishwasher.
My family is very far from normal.
I, personally, think there is a really danger of taking food too seriously. Food should be part of the bigger picture.