There is another more subtle way in which the innocence of childhood is lost: when the child is infected with the desire to become somebody. Contemplate the crowds of people who are striving might and main to become, not what Nature intended them to be- musicians, cooks, mechanics, carpenters, gardeners, inventors- but "somebody": to become successful, famous, powerful; to become something that will bring not quiet and self-fulfillment, but self-glorification and self-expansion
Anthony de MelloYou are never in love with anyone. You're only in love with your prejudiced and hopeful idea of that person.
Anthony de MelloSin is a refusal to grow, a refusal to love, a refusal to get committed, to be concerned, and to take risks.
Anthony de MelloAs soon as you look at the world through an ideology, you are finished. No reality fits ideology.
Anthony de MelloIf you search within your heart, you will find something there that will make it possible for you to understand: a spark of disenchantment and discontent, which if fanned into flame will become a raging forest fire that will burn up the whole of the illusory world you are living in, thereby unveiling to your wondering eyes the kingdom that you have always lived in unsuspectingly.
Anthony de Mello