Negative feelings are in you, not in reality. Stop trying to change reality. That's crazy! Stop trying to change the other person. We spend all our time and energy trying to change external circumstances, trying to change our spouses, our bosses, our friends, our enemies, and everybody else. We don't have to change anything. Negative feelings are in you.
Anthony de MelloA man who took great pride in his lawn found himself with a large crop of dandelions. He tried every method he knew to get rid of them. Still they plagued him. Finally he wrote the department of agriculture. He enumerated all the things he had tried and closed his letter with the question: "What shall I do now?" In due course the reply came: "We suggest you learn to love them."
Anthony de MelloLive your life as you see fit. That's not selfish. Selfish is to demand that others live their lives as you see fit.
Anthony de MelloWhatever is truly alive must die. Look at the flowers; only plastic flowers never die.
Anthony de Mello