It is only when we no longer compulsively need someone that we can have a real relationship with them.
Anthony StorrIt is widely believed that interpersonal relationships of an intimate kind are the chief, if not the only, source of human happiness, yet the lives of creative individuals often seem to run counter to this assumption.
Anthony StorrWhen a man suffers from delusions he is described as mad but when a million do so they belong to a world religion
Anthony StorrThe creative person is constantly seeking to discover himself, to remodel his own identity, and to find meaning in what he creates.
Anthony StorrAvoidance behavior is a response designed to protect the infant from behavioral disorganization. If we transfer this concept to adult life, we can see that an avoidant infant might very well develop into a person whose principal need was to find some kind of meaning and order in life which was not entirely, or even chiefly, dependent upon interpersonal relationships
Anthony Storr