One possible reason why things aren't going according to plan is that there never was a plan.
It's not easy taking my problems one at a time when they refuse to get in line.
I too am a member of the human race, (but admittedly not a very active member).
The fact that many things have no explanation ought to prevent them from happening; but it doesn't.
I want to appreciate you now, and avoid the rush.
It's amazing how much research has gone into making some of the worst decisions.