Reverse every natural instinct and do the opposite of what you are inclined to do, and you will probably come very close to having a perfect golf swing.
Jesus Christ can't hit a golf ball straight. It's virtually impossible - at best it's an accident.
Relax? How can anybody relax and play golf? You have to grip the club, don't you?
Hit the ball up to the hole... You meet a better class of people up there.
The ultimate judge of your swing is the flight of the ball.
You never fight your eye when you look at a hole. If it looks one way, play it that way. Don't make a big deal out of an easy shot.