You cannot shame or belittle people into changing their behaviors.

At the end of my life I want to be able to say I contributed more than I criticized.

Vulnerability is not weakness.

When I look at narcissism through the vulnerability lens, I see the shame-based fear of being ordinary. I see the fear of never feeling extraordinary enough to be noticed, to be lovable, to belong, or to cultivate a sense of purpose.

What makes you vulnerable makes you beautiful.

I now see how gifts like courage, compassion, and connection only work when they are exercised. Every day.

Think about what’s pleasurable, not just what’s possible.