Vulnerability is not weakness. And that myth is profoundly dangerous.... Vulnerability is the birthplace of connection and the path to the feeling of worthiness. If it doesn't feel vulnerable, the sharing is probably not constructive.

The difficult thing is that vulnerability is the first thing I look for in you and the last thing I'm willing to show you. In you, it's courage and daring. In me, it's weakness.

Nostalgia is also a dangerous form of comparison. Think about how often we compare our lives to a memory that nostalgia has so completely edited that it never really existed.

If we own the story then we can write the ending.

You cannot talk about race without talking about privilege. And when people start talking about privilege, they get paralyzed by shame.

You can choose courage or you can choose comfort, but you can't have both.

Guilt: I'm sorry. I made a mistake. Shame: I'm sorry. I am a mistake.