There really is "no effort without error and shortcoming" and there really is no triumph without vulnerability.

Who we are and how we engage with the world are much stronger predictors of how our children will do than what we know about parenting.

Men walk this tightrope where any sign of weakness illicits shame, and so they're afraid to make themselves vulnerable for fear of looking weak.

Are you the adult that you want your child to grow up to be?

Our capacity for wholeheartednes s can never be greater than our willingness to be broken-hearted.

Worrying about scarcity is our culture's version of post-traumatic stress. It happens when we've been through too much, and rather than coming together to heal (which requires vulnerability) we're angry and scared and at each other's throats.

If we want to be able to move through the difficult disappointments, the hurt feelings, and the heartbreaks that are inevitable in a fully lived life, we can't equate defeat with being unworthy of love, belonging and joy. If we do, we'll never show up and try again.