Daring to set boundaries is about having the courage to love ourselves, even when we risk disappointing others.

Guilt is just as powerful, but its influence is positive, while shame's is destructive. Shame erodes our courage and fuels disengagement.

Joy, collected over time, fuels resilience - ensuring we'll have reservoirs of emotional strength when hard things do happen.

In order for connection to happen, we have to allow ourselves to be seen, really seen.

Love is not something we give or get; it is something that we nurture and grow, a connection that can only be cultivated between two people when it exists within each one of them- we can only love others as much as we love ourselves. Shame, blame, disrespect, betrayal, and the withholding of affection damage the roots from which love grows. Love can only survive these injuries if they are acknowledged, healed, and rare.

Perfectionism is self destructive simply because there's no such thing as perfect. Perfection is an unattainable goal.

There are infinite numbers of do overs for your teen girls.